Last evening we said goodbye to my dear friend and mentor
Dan Friedlander, a great technology and clean energy entrepreneur, activist, and artist.
Over 200 of his family, friends and Boulder, CO community were in attendance, and I was honored to present at the event, trying to provide a brief glimpse into the incredible contribution Dan had to my life. Here is that speech:
Let me tell you a story, of a young man and his mentor, and how 25 years of ridiculous
patience from the Teacher, helped take the Student to new heights:
- From geeky engineer to entrepreneur,
- From Tom Clancy and Steven King to Kurt Vonnegut
and Thomas Friedman,
- And from George W to “Recovering Republican” … Better
known as: a Democrat.
The teaching occurred, not with lectures or criticisms, but by
leading through example, such as when the Teacher worked out every day for
almost 10 years without fail, put his foot down about not shipping a product
that didn’t quite work, abandoned consumption of bottled water, or refused car
rides when a bike or bus would do.
And the teaching occurred through caring, where a simple
series of questions – not to find out just “What” was going on in the student’s
life, but probing to get to the “Why” things were the way they were:
- How happy are you (on a scale from 1 to 10)?
- Why do you think you feel that way?
- How can you make it better?
My name is Tom Pisello, and this of course is the story of
Dan, my mentor, best man, dear friend – and the influence he had on my life and
on my family.
And I know many of you know this same story well. Likely you
too evolved a better understanding of community, commerce, conservation,
creativity, causes and compassion as a result of knowing Dan.
Some of you might also have had the pleasure of going on hikes
with Dan. One-on-one for miles, this is really where some of the best lessons
occurred, and as well, where I learned the most about what made Dan so unique.
For example, Dan could not tell time … “Let’s do this hike –
Bear Peak. It’s close, short and easy, and it should only take us 2 hours” – 7
hours later Dan and I are still hiking, by now on our way down the mountain,
but in the pitch dark, a moonless night, practically sliding down the entire
way on ice covered trails. Diane was not amused with our 10pm return home.
Or on more than one high country hike, where Dan just couldn’t
help himself - stripping naked and jumping in the icy cold waters of a glacial
lake. I can still picture Dan, carefully
walking his bare feet over the rocks, the sun blinding as it reflected off his winter
white skin, and diving in without a care, as if the water were a heated resort
pool.
As an entrepreneur, he molded companies and mentored future
leaders to cross chasms while creating caring citizenship As an energy conservationist, he enticed many to challenge
convention and embrace alternatives.
And as an artist; many of you came to love Dan best for his
sculptures. A courageous creativity to turn simple clay into textured
titillating timescapes.
I too think Dan should best be remembered for being a
sculptor. Not just for molding clay, but for shaping the people and communities around
him to fit his Bohemian principals of Peace, Love, People and Purpose.
In his last days, in the defining moment for the man I loved,
as he looked deeply into his wife Diane’s eyes, Dan confessed:
“I don’t believe in God, there is
no heaven waiting for me.
I am not spiritual, so I don’t
believe my soul will be reincarnated.
There is no next place. This step
is unfortunately a final one for me.
But I am a humanist. It’s people, and
relationships; these are the most important things. This is what defined me, defined
my life, is all that matters to me now, and all that should matter to us all.”
Humanism – A philosophy and world view, putting human values
and concerns above the divine.
Dan, thank you for being a humanist and a sculptor. We are grateful
you put People - us, your family, your friends, your community - above all
else, and invested so much creativity, shaping our lives and making our world a
better place.
Two of the
organizations Dan helped start could always use more support and donations: Earth Vision Trust, funding the climate change
education and outreach efforts of James Balog and the Extreme Ice Survey, 4780
Sterling Dr., Boulder, CO 80301; and Clean Energy Action (CEA), accelerating the
transition to a post-fossil-fuel world built on clean energy, Leslie Glustrom,
P. O. Box 1399, Boulder, CO 80306.